Relationship Patterns & Attachment Therapy in NY & NJ (Virtual)

You may notice the same patterns repeating in your relationships, even when you genuinely want something different.

You may overthink how someone feels about you.

You may become emotionally guarded to avoid being hurt.

You may prioritize others’ needs while losing sight of your own.

Or you may find yourself pulling away when relationships begin to feel too close.

These patterns often operate outside of conscious awareness. They can create confusion, self-doubt, and emotional exhaustion.

Therapy can help you understand these patterns and begin to change them.

How Relationship Patterns Often Show Up

Relationship difficulties are not always obvious from the outside. Many people appear to function well while internally struggling with:

These responses are not random. They reflect learned ways of protecting yourself emotionally.

Attachment refers to the ways we learned, early in life, how safe it is to depend on others.

These early experiences shape expectations about relationships, including whether others will be available, responsive, or reliable.

As adults, these patterns can show up as:

These patterns made sense in earlier contexts. But they may no longer serve you in your current relationships.

Therapy helps bring these patterns into awareness so they can begin to shift.

We focus on helping you understand both your emotional responses and the underlying patterns driving them.

In therapy, we work to:

This process helps you respond more intentionally rather than automatically.

Over time, relationships begin to feel less confusing and more manageable.

Many clients begin to experience:

These changes often extend beyond relationships, improving overall emotional well-being.